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Many families are choosing cremation services. Let’s be honest, it can seem like an overwhelming process. The grief is overwhelming, but then you are faced with an array of choices. Anyone’s mind would spin.

Let’s start by talking about the reasons people opt for cremation. It’s cheaper than burials. Some people are attracted to it because of its affordability, while others choose cremation for the environmental or simplicity benefits. Betty’s neighbor, for example, cremated her husband for the simple reason that he loved minimalism. She said, with a smile of regret: “He did not want to make a fuss.”

What happens in the cremation process? In a specially designed chamber, the body is heated to high temperatures and then turned into ashes. The remains of the deceased are ground into smaller particles, which can then be placed in an appropriate container.

Did you know that urns come in various sizes and shapes? There are vases that can be made of classic materials or biodegradable ones which turn into trees. Tim, my cousin, chose one which would sprout an oak in his back yard. He said, “I wanted Dad to feel part of the natural world.”

The memorial service is often forgotten. Before the cremation, you can have a service that includes hymns and eulogies. You could also go off script and have a gathering on the beach where people share stories by a bonfire. You can go as far as you want.

There’s still more to come! After the cremation, what do you plan to do with your ashes? The ashes can be kept in an urn or scattered in meaningful locations. Some companies will even turn the ashes into diamonds, or use them in fireworks displays. Imagine sending a loved one out with a bang.

It can also be difficult to choose between providers. You’re faced with 50 cereals on the shelf of your local grocery store. Transparency in the pricing of services is important; no one likes to be surprised by unexpected fees.

Don’t forget to preplan! My Aunt Sally is one of the many people who plan ahead. Instead of talking about her wishes, she sat down with us one Sunday and gave out flyers as if it were a Tupperware Party.

She joked, “Better to know now rather than leave you guessing later” as she passed out cookies.

Consider the legacy that you would like to leave, not only financially, but also emotionally. It’s not just about the logistics, but also giving your family peace during difficult times.

Communication is key to ensuring everyone’s support for the decisions made. No surprises! Jake’s siblings could not agree how to best honor the memory of their mother after her sudden death last year.

Every Saturday, he has advised anyone who will listen to him over coffee in our local diner.

Here we go, a quick tour of everything cremation-related (and some things that aren’t) without the frills! If you are planning in advance or making a decision on the spur of the moment, remember that it is more important to honor those who have passed according to what feels right than follow any set rules.

Then, until the next time, keep on smiling and laughing. Enjoy life to its fullest. You never know what tomorrow will bring.